newbie guide
If you’ve made it this far down the rabbithole, you have probably thought about what it might be like to meet in person.
If this is your first time meeting a companion, you probably have some questions about the process, which I will endeavor to answer below.
how do I know you’re real?
Just like a traditional date, you probably want to know something about the person you are going on a date with before you agree to spend your time meeting them. I maintain a professional website, presence on multiple social media platforms, offer options to correspond online first, and have multiple colleagues who can verify my professionalism.
Conversely, while you’ve had a chance to check me out online and decide that you’d like to meet me, I haven’t yet had the opportunity to do the same with you, which is why I ask you to provide some information about yourself.
what information do you require?
Three or more of the following:
One (or more) reference(s) from a reputable companion you’ve met recently (bonus points if they are someone I know personally). Agency references are rarely accepted because they usually cannot provide any degree of detail about your temperament or how the date went.
A LinkedIn or other social media connection request. (I won’t accept it, unless you want me to.)
An email sent from your work email address to my unlisted email address.
A scan of your government-issued photo ID.
Your mobile number. (I won’t contact you on it, unless you want me to.)
If any of the above are insufficient, you may be asked for additional information or required to provide payment in full to confirm the date.
how will you use my information?
Your information will be used to verify your identity, determine that you don’t have a violent history, and that you have treated other colleagues of mine that you’ve met with respect. Past that, the only time it will ever be utilized is if you commit a felony-level crime against me or a colleague. Lesser offenses will result in your information being added to an industry blacklist. My professional ethics do not permit me to ever “out” you to your family or employer, nor do I do a deep dive into your career or press history, personal life, assets, or what you had for breakfast. What you choose to reveal about yourself during our time together is the information I have about you, and I have plenty of other things to do with my time.
how long is my screening good for?
Generally, once you’re screened, you’re good to go. If a lot of time (1+ years) elapses between your original screening and our first meeting, I might do another background search or request a more recent reference, but I understand that sometimes life gets in the way of plans to meet. If your schedule is subject to frequent changes or last-minute openings, it’s best to send your details before you have a date in mind. I can be flexible and spontaneous if you’ve already introduced yourself, but I don’t drop everything for complete strangers unless your last minute request is accompanied by a deposit.
how do i get the most out of our dates?
do your best to provide complete screening info with your initial introduction
freshen up at the beginning of any private time we spend together
always provide full payment at the beginning of our date without putting me in the position of having to request it
dedicate as much time to thinking about our non-private time together as our private time — hiding out in hotels gets boring
while never expected, gifts and/or tips are a fantastic way to make me feel appreciated
relax and be open — my purpose is not to judge your appearance, social status, sexual preferences, or any other factor that may influence the other relationships in your life